In this day and age, with everyone able to and wanting to be in touch with friends, family and strangers at the touch of a few buttons and at a moments notice, I think we forget about those who don’t really want to want everyone they know (or don’t know) to be able to find them.

I live alone. I have friends and we go out and do things, I enjoy spending time with friends, but in my life there is a place and time for that. Just like everyone else whose everyday life is spent with family and the occupants of their household. We all have things to do. Going out and hanging out with people you don’t live with is an occasion reserved for weekends or long lunches or celebrations. Its not something people do everyday. I live alone, so my everyday life (when I’m not at work) is spent without human companions. I enjoy doing things alone. In fact sometimes I really prefer shopping on my own I don’t usually want everyone’s opinion. I’ve been told how brave I am that I go out on my own. Statements like that are weird to me, because this is life.

Social media is everywhere and everyone expects you to be plugged in all the time. I talked to a help desk to help earlier this week to help me solve a problem with an app on my phone. Not a social media app. They expected me to be able to pop on my computer and pull up their site and go from there. I know this is where I diverge from many people now a days, even my father. I have a laptop and I don’t have it on unless I a working on it. Don’t get me wrong I like social media, I’m on Instagram and You Tube at least once a day, but I may get on Facebook once a month (I’ve been known to even go longer between Facebook log ins).

My friends have mostly gotten used to the fact that they aren’t going to be able to get a hold of me on Facebook, Snap Chat or Twitter. If they want to get a hold of me most of them know they have to text or call. My personal favorite is when people, okay mostly men, but not all, who try to message me on Instagram get so offended when I don’t answer them immediately. I’m busy, I don’t live my life on social media and I definitely don’t live my life to please strangers who think they are my friends just because they follow me on Instagram. There are many times when I don’t want to talk to anybody, even friends, I just want to look through the posts or videos and not interact. What’s wrong with that.

I’m don’t live my life like everyone else seems to. Of course I don’t know how everyone lives behind their closed doors. They may have the same feelings I do, but why is wanting to just relax and not deal with other humans so bad.